May 2020 – Happy Schools

Are YOU Adding to OR… Taking Away?

May 28, 2020

We are not invisible! There is no neutral. You are either adding to a relationship or taking away from one. Sadly, many people attempting to be neutral don’t even realise that they are taking away. These are the people who when they are lied about at their farewell morning tea, don’t even know! Their self-awareness of their own energy and more importantly, its negative impact on others is either negligible or completely non existent! There is, of course, a more dangerous group of people. These are the people who are busy taking away. Their reasons vary and are often complicated. Some sadly enjoy the negative attention whilst others are so scared, hurt and cynical, they have either forgotten or have…

All You Need Is Love by Keith Abraham

May 21, 2020

Stevef

Resilience

Such a great song from the Beatles. In actual fact, we really need love now! As I have been chatting with audiences all around the world sharing my concept of choosing your mindset—or what I call an amplified attitude—I have been sharing six key mindsets each of us needs to have in this environment of uncertainty. Now, it’s not about having all six, it’s about picking one and focusing on it with such intensity that every cell in your body believes it. This mindset coupled with a high level of intensity changes how you turn up every day. It influences how you walk, talk, think, what you say to others and most importantly what you say to yourself. Here are…

A Letter to Parents

May 14, 2020

Stevef

Resilience

The following is an excerpt from Gabbie Stroud’s excellent book “A Letter to Parents” Dear Parents & Caregivers, The entire process of parenting is a kind of letting go, isn’t it? Right from that moment when a newborn leaves its mother’s body our children are always growing away from us, growing up, becoming independent. And that’s exactly the way it should be. We have to be careful, though, that we give our children space to grow. If we do too much for them, they won’t grow up—in fact, they might grow down. There’s a funny sort of climate surrounding kids these days: we’re so worried about internet predators, stranger danger, drugs and terrorists that we want to protect our children…

Helpful Things People Say During A Conflict

May 7, 2020

Stevef

Communication

During a conflict some of our behaviours are helpful and some hinder the resolution of the issue. What are the helpful interactions during a conflict? Let’s work this out – there comes a time when you need to remove yourself from a hurtful dynamic. If we become stuck in a pattern of avoidance this only communicates ongoing rejection and disrespect and can lead to the situation festering. It is important to consider the costs of the status quo continuing and the possible benefits of change. When we communicate a genuine desire to work things out, this changes the tone of the conversation and communicates goodwill and hope for the future. At our best, we search for solutions that take everyone’s…